Blog#6 Sex Talk With Grown Friends

Immorality:

Noun

He charged that the overseas press was prone to lies and immorality: wickedness, immoral behavior, badness, evil, vileness, corruption, dishonesty, dishonorableness; sinfulness, ungodliness, unchastity, sin…..sounds like fun!

Currently we are faced with a disease that has killed more people than any other epidemic in our history.  The HIV/AIDS virus.  This outbreak is spreading like fire around the world. Including Africa, India, and Europe.  In addition there seems to be a new strain of Sexual Transmitted Infections coming to surface every year. Some say these viruses are a penalty for sin and immorality, “your Mama should have taught you better”. Others say that stigma should not be attached to venereal diseases. Stigma creates fear and ignorance.  I agree with the latter.   It’s just dumb to say that anyone who engages in sexual activities deserves STD. Having sex does not make you immoral, it makes us human.  I mean that’s like saying that if I built my home and it burns down I deserved it because I had a stove.  I NEED a stove to cook so I can live and I believe we need sex to survive.  Now with that said I do think that a person should be a little more selective in the choices. Do what ever floats your boat but be careful.  What’s wrong with being in a committed monogamous relationship? People can lower their chances of getting infectons by being in a faithful relationship with one partner; limiting their number of sex partners; and choosing a partner who has had no or few prior sex partners. I must add that even people with only one lifetime sex partner can get a STI, Which has nothing to do with class, status or race it’s just how it is.  We need to communicate better with our mates and partners about what expectations we expect of the relationship.  If your partner can’t give you what you need to be healthy mentally and physically well I say “cut um loose”  **two snaps in the air**

Now if I had a friend who needed my advice about STI’s, being the great Girlfriend that I am I would  be honest, loving  and tough.  I would give the following advice  to any of my friends who needed it:  Our bodies are a beautiful work of art from God.  We must love and cherish our bodies because we only get one. Look in the mirror and see who you are.  Promise your body that you will eat right, get sleep and most important be safe when if comes to sex.  If you make a mistake and catch a virus, seek help immediately.  Keeping silent about a STI like Chlamydia or Herpes can cause infertility, cervical cancer or even death. (Not a good look).

There is nothing to be ashamed about.  We all make mistakes. My Grandma use to say “hold you head high when you doing your dirt and keep it high when you walking in the light of the deed”. We all fall so go get tested and get back up again.  Real Divas face problems head on in red pumps and Gucci bags! Smooches!